Are Jesse & Alli McBee Still Together? Everything They've Shared About the State of Their Marriage
The McBee Dynasty: Real American Cowboys couple Jesse McBee and Alli McBee are opening up about where their marriage stands.
Key Takeaways
- Alli and Jesse McBee revealed ongoing struggles in their marriage, including poor communication, emotional disconnect, intimacy issues, and spending significant time living separately between the farm and the city.
- Despite considering major relationship concerns and openly questioning their future together, both said they still want the marriage to work and hope to rebuild trust, growth, and romantic connection.
- Parenthood has added strain to their relationship, with Alli sharing that she felt unsupported during postpartum recovery while both acknowledged that raising their daughter Summer shifted their relationship more toward coparenting than romance.
Alli McBee and Jesse McBee are shedding new light on the state of their marriage as Season 3 of The McBee Dynasty: Real American Cowboys continues.
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The couple celebrated one year of marriage during Season 3, Episode 5 (which aired July 13), and since then, they've been candidly opening up about the major issues in their relationship. The situation is so serious, Alli even hinted to Kacie Adkison that a split was not out of the question.
“Trust me, I’m a very strong and independent woman. I know I will be okay, because I’ve set myself up that way, regardless of if I was with Jesse or I was not,” Alli shared on McBee Dynasty Season 3. “But, I want to give him the opportunity to change.”
Both Alli and Jesse have been clear that their marriage isn’t perfect, with Alli telling a producer during Episode 4 (which aired July 6) that she felt “100 percent” alone sometimes.
Alli revealed more about their intimacy issues on Season 3, Episode 5 when she added, “There have been moments when I’m like, ‘No, I do deserve better.’ Truly, he’s my best friend. But romantically, there’s things that are lacking, like, major things.”
To producers, Alli confessed that communication was one of her biggest problems with Jesse as they marked their anniversary. “We’ve made it to one year. We’re still together. But, I just wish he would take the initiative and kind of talk to me about this stuff versus me having to talk to him and bring it to his attention,” she admitted.
Below, read more about the couple and find out the latest in their relationship today.
Who is Alli McBee?
Alli has been a central part of the expansive McBee family for several years, as she was Jesse’s high school sweetheart, then fiancée, and now wife. According to her Season 3 bio, she “has a career outside the family farm, and works as a nurse practitioner.”
When did Jesse and Alli McBee start dating?
Jesse and Alli began dating in high school, and were together for over 12 years before Jesse proposed marriage. He popped the question during McBee Dynasty Season 1.
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When did Jesse and Alli McBee get married?
Jesse and Alli married in October 2024, and their wedding aired during the McBee Dynasty Season 2 finale on Sept. 1, 2025.
Jesse spoke up about his hesitations in tying the knot during Season 2, Episode 8, and Jesse and Alli even considered calling off the wedding.
“I feel like I’m living a double life. Trying to keep this image that [my family members] all have of not only me, but like of us,” Jesse admitted to Alli at the time.
He confessed to producers about having an anxeity attack at the thought of marriage: "I'm thinking about getting married. I can feel my heart beating through my chest, and I start sweating. And once it all starts to boil over and all that stress starts to pile up, I honestly don't know what to do."
Ultimately, the two decided not to postpone their wedding.
Do Jesse and Alli McBee have kids?
Yes, Alli and Jesse have one daughter together, Summer, who turned one in April 2026.
Alli revealed new details about her challenging postpartum experience with Summer during The McBee Dynasty Season 3, Episode 5.
“I honestly don’t think I probably would have made it through my, probably a couple of months, postpartum without Kristi [McBee] or my mom,” she confided in Kacie. Kacie answered, “Because you weren’t getting any breaks whatsoever.”
Alli explained that she didn’t feel supported by Jesse during that time. “I mean, during that time especially, I needed a bit of like, normalcy. I needed someone to like take the stress off of me, but I didn’t necessarily get that,” she shared.
Alli also disclosed that she felt dismissed by Jesse when she shared her postpartum struggles. “I expressed it to him, but you know,” she trailed off. “It’s one of those things he has to actively be listening.”
Jesse and Alli both agreed that becoming parents has negatively impacted their sex life and intimacy. “Since becoming a parent, my relationship with Alli’s definitely been more—probably coparenting more than anything,” Jesse confessed to producers. “Like we are very focused on Summer, and our actual relationship probably got a little less romantic than it was beforehand.”
Alli McBee and Jesse McBee's living arrangement, explained
Alli and Jesse opened up about another recurring issue in their marriage during The McBee Dynasty Season 3: living in two separate homes.
“Jesse and I don’t see a whole lot of each other,” Alli told producers. “Jesse has been spending a lot of nights at the farm. And my house is in the city."
Are Jesse and Alli McBee still together?
Although Jesse and Alli have yet to confirm where their marriage stands today, they had a frank conversation about the future of their marriage during McBee Dynasty Season 3, Episode 5.
“Do you still want this?” Jesse bluntly asked Alli, who answered, “I just want to see change.” She added, “I wanna see growth. I wanna see change. I wanna see that stuff. I don’t want to just be told that.”
Jesse agreed he was still invested in his marriage. “We obviously both want it to work, otherwise we wouldn’t have stuck it out this long,” he pointed out. “I just think we need to try and find that spark again I guess.”
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What Alli McBee has said about divorcing Jesse McBee
On McBee Dynasty Season 3, Episode 7 (which aired July 27), Alli brought up the prospect of divorce after Jesse said he didn't want to join the family's upcoming trip to Las Vegas. “Our marriage, it's not good. I'm only a few months postpartum, and my body has changed. I don't feel comfortable in my own skin yet, but Jesse is not making an effort," she began. "Now, we just kind of, you know, are friends that just kinda live with each other. That's how it feels.”
Citing the statistic that “50 percent of marriages end in divorce,” Alli tearfully added, “I don't want to be that. So, I just need to see some effort from Jesse.”
Though Jesse, for his part, explained to Alli that his hesitation was related to the Vegas trip’s timing — one week after his father, Steve McBee Sr., reported to prison — there was actually more to the story. “I mean, the truth is that Alli and I's relationship is not the best that it's ever been right now,” Jesse explained to a producer. “And I don't want others to see that. We've always kept everything in-house. I really just don't think it's a good idea for us to go out there and air out all of our problems, so they can give their advice. And, honestly, it's not their relationship to solve.”
A bit later, he continued, “I just want to bury myself in work. It's a lot easier than having to deal with all the problems I know Alli and I have had. Alli's gonna want me to be very emotionally available, and that's another thing that I'm terrible at. So, I think subconsciously I'm worried about that in the back of my mind.”
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Alli McBee and Jesse McBee detail issues in their marriage
Jesse and Alli further opened up about what’s wrong in their marriage during a game night with Jesse’s brothers, Cole McBee and Steven McBee Jr., as well as their respective partners, Kacie and Allie Eklund.
“How can I be a better partner?” Jesse read off a game card during McBee Dynasty Season 3, Episode 5, and Alli was quick to answer. “He’s definitely one to keep stuff in, so. You need to communicate how you’re feeling: what you like, what you don’t like, what I can do to be better, those kinds of things,” she told him. “I wanna know that stuff. So I’d say communication.”
Jesse agreed that conversation was their biggest issue: “I would say just more of an open line of communication.”
Along those same lines, both Jesse and Alli discovered during the game that neither feels heard by the other. “Do you feel like I listen to you when you are speaking with me?” Jesse read off a game card, and Alli immediately responded, “No.”
Jesse also answered, “No,” and added. “You’re either on your phone—that just happened last week—or you just completely ignore what I’m trying to say.”
Privately, the couple complained of their home life to producers. “When I come home from work it’s either just like, ‘Hey, what’s up?’ And then we go our separate ways. Like it’s not really like she’s excited to see me,” Jesse revealed. Alli explained, “I’m being open, I’m being vulnerable, but I don’t think Jesse does that.”
Along with communication, both Alli and Jesse hinted at problems in their sex life. After Alli read off a game card, “Are you happy with the level of intimacy in our relationship?” she added, “I know your answer…No. We both have initiation problems. That’s where we lack.”
Jesse was stunned to find out during the game that Alli stopped taking her birth control, but also admitted it wasn’t a problem. “It’s not an issue right now because we’re not having sex, so, it’s kinda impossible [to have another baby],” he revealed.
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Elsewhere, on McBee Dynasty Season 3, Episode 7, Jesse opened up to mom Kristi about not wanting to go on the Vegas trip amid his and Alli’s issues. “I could list out a million excuses, but I think I kind of put our relationship on the back burner a little bit,” he conceded. “Not that I wasn't still there, but … we have all this other stuff going on.”
After Jesse unpacked how he’d simply fallen “into the grind of life,” Kristi urged him to “do it for Alli,” reminding him that the trip would only last a couple of days anyway. “The timing of everything has been bad, with her kind of suffering through a little postpartum,” Kristi said. “I don't think she ever expected to have that. And that's something … I don't think you can prepare for.”
Jesse replied, “I definitely didn't do a good enough job being there, I guess, for her.”
ICYMI, Alli shared an update on Summer during her first birthday, as she called her “the biggest blessing.”
